Search for Speakers
Trainers and Consultants
B personalities please move slowly to the next article. Take your time.
These few thoughts will have no relevance to life as you know it. But to the
rest of us, the A types, I want to offer a few inspired words of empathy and
don't know about you, but I can't stand it any more. How long does change
have to take?
need for corporate change at your place is unarguable. Anyone with an IQ
above a hockey puck can see the wisdom of your change process. So why has it
taken a year and a half just to get people willing to talk about it, never
mind implement anything?
you need is a little equipment to make your office semi-functional, but
you'd think you'd asked for a reconstruction of the entire downtown core.
Your sign-off limit barely lets you in on Zeller's $1.49 day, and getting
the Board to authorize a new waste basket is worth six months of committee
meetings. And have you ever tried to get a definitive ruling from the tax
department? We're talking life-long projects here. How does one make the
most out of such situations?
I want to point out a fundamental struggle. On one side, there are ways to
simplify and expedite change. There is very little necessity for much of the
bureaucracy and red tape we endure. Most of it stems from people's need for
power. On the other hand, in all change there is a process that has to
unfold. Rushing or forcing it is futile, and may make the situation worse.
that, there are seven principles that help to make the most of long,
drawn-out and difficult experiences.
YOU ARE NOT ALONE
the risk of constructively and gently expressing your perception of the
situation and you will be surprised at how many others will identify with
you. This honesty helps transform the situation from "my problem"
to "our problem" and a much better chance at getting something
done about it. Misery loves company, but so does Hope.
THERE IS ALWAYS MOVEMENT
DO NOT FORSAKE MOTHERHOOD
NOTE THAT THE RIGHTEOUSNESS AND GLORY OF MARTYRDOM IS FLEETING
most of us can't even be good martyrs. The final degradation comes with the
realization that nobody cares. Oh, they'll stop and watch you burn at the
stake for awhile but they've got better things to do. You not only end up
toast, you end up alone. It's just not worth it. If you really need to be a
martyr, go ahead-but set a time limit on it: "I'm going to be a martyr
until noon tomorrow." Then get on with the business of changing the
FOCUS MORE ON THE PRIZE THAN ON THE PRICE
here you are paying more than your share in time, energy and probably money.
You're paying with your frustration and perseverance. Keep your eyes on the
prize. If it's worth it, if it's your dream, if it's the desire of your
heart-look down just long enough to count the cost and then get your focus
back up where it belongs - on the prize.
REMEMBER THE BIG PICTURE
GET READY FOR A CELEBRATION
one thing no one can take from you is the power to choose. One choice is to
extract yourself from your difficult situation rather than fight it to the
end. If this seems like the wisest direction for you, then make it a strong,
clear decision rather than fade indecisively from the scene. Celebrate your
courage and your decision. Once decided, don't keep rehearsing your choice.
you choose to stay with it and make the most out of your long, drawn-out and
difficult experiences, be confident of your eventual triumph. Keep Hope
firmly in mind and look forward to the victory party. Because life is full
of difficult experience, it can also be full of celebration.
All articles & website © EXPERT Magazine